Just sharing passages that grab me, from one of my favorite books as of late.
“Whenever I am trying to decide whether to accept an invitation, I just pretend it is going to happen tomorrow morning. It is easy to say yes to something happening six months from now, but it has to be super fantastic to get me to go tomorrow morning.”
I like this thought process a lot better than the other respondents as of late. I always think of invitations that I’ve already accepted only the day before, and most of the time I am dreading them, and trying to find a way to get out of them. This practice will help me preempt them a lot better.
And remember, Paul – you don’t owe anybody an explanation.
“I avoid working on things that someone else could do, even if I enjoy doing it and would get paid well to do it. I try to give my best ideas away in the hope that someone will do them, because if they do them, that means I was not the only one who could have. I encourage competitors for the same reason. In the end, I’m left with projects that only I can do, which makes them distinctive and valuable.”
This is hard to do, because I feel like we need the money right now. But I can probably reframe this differently – I can take high-paying jobs to pay the bills, build my credibility, exhibit immense value, and give someone else an opportunity to make money, and build skills – and I still have clear space to do projects that are unique only to my calling. The way God intended.
“Don’t try to find your passion. Instead master some skill, interest, or knowledge that others find valuable. It almost doesn’t matter what it is at the start. You don’t have to love it, you just have to be the best at it. Once you master it, you’ll be rewarded with new opportunities that will allow you to move away from tasks you dislike and toward those that you enjoy. If you continue to optimize your mastery, you’ll eventually arrive at your passion.”
Again – an echo for the fact that in the beginning, you don’t know what your calling is. You can’t possibly know unless you try all sorts of things with the intent of mastering them, or quickly knowing that you can’t master them if even if you tried. Process of elimination, recalibrating, and chipping away at the stone until your art shows itself.